SEX BENEFITS (POLL 16)

The jury is out. 79% have a favourable view of sex which is heartening. However, the bigger question is how many of the respondents actually are able to get it on a regular basis.

I've always found it extremely enjoyable but it is also a good way to connect with your partner. Yes, it's definitely a stress reliever but I like to also think of it as a recreational activity. You get to see and do what you don't normally do, it can be a sweaty affair, and you can live out fantasies physically and mentally which I don't think anything else is able to achieve.

While its probably right to say that the initial stage of any relationship, sex is a binding element, I think once marriage comes about, the mistake many often make it having similar expectations. That opens yourself up for disappointment because like anything new, there is always excitement and enthusiasm for the novelty but once you get the hang on it, it does get boring. So its probably wise to re-look at the role sex plays in a marriage.

Think about it. When you start out on a new sport - say tennis, you want to keep up with your coaching sessions. Thereafter, you pester friends to head to the courts on a weekly basis. Soon, it's a monthly affair, and later its a by the way sort of thing. Sex is no different.

To reinvent it and revitalise the interest, you need to commonly explore new ways to enjoy it. It doesn't have to be a regular affair but occasionally spicy enough to keep you lusting for more. Variety and spontaneity is the way to go.

Once you open up to the fact that sex should be an ever-evolving factor in any relationship, the possibilities are endless. Mindsets - that is the first thing to overcome but only if you are serious about re-injecting some excitement into your relationship.

Missus Singapore out!