HEALTHY WEIGHT FOR GOOD SEX

A nurse wrote in sometime back to comment on a post. After exchanging several emails, we realised that we actually went to the same high school way back. What a pleasant coincidence.

Anyway, she is now a senior nurse clinician at the weight management department in a local public hospital. She was actually commenting on a post about women who are confident about their overweight bodies.

Here is a gist of the email she sent.

"I'll bet you that most overweight women hate how they look when they stare in the mirror. Of course to mask that, they will tell everyone how good they feel about themselves - either they have breasts that they never had, or fill up clothes better. I can tell you that they are just fooling themselves."

She adds: "How can anyone possibly in their right mind feel good that they are putting their health at a tremendous risk to cardiovascular and other health problems. Stop fooling themselves and make changes asap before its too late. More often than not, the patients we see, the women in particular, are mostly married and let themselves go. They often complain about their poor sex lives - I wonder why"

Well, I suppose many of my friends who have let themselves go seem to fit the bill but they do seem a bubbly lot really.

Thinking back, I did a survey of 270 men on what they felt about overweight women, not plump but overweight bordering on obese. It was quite an extensive survey but to extract the relevant parts - only 19 or 7% found them sexually appealing while only 13 or 5% would want to be in a relationship with one.

Okay, to me, that's just the typical superficial male's opinion. Personally, I don't mind the least how someone looks as long as she is comfortable with herself but at the back of my mind, I have to admit that I'm concerned about the health implications for them being overweight.

Sex wise - I wonder if they can give their all or get the most from sex, but perhaps they are lucky enough to find a man who has sexual leanings towards overweight women. But then again, men a fickle and after the novelty diminishes, who knows - resentment might set in.

I mean to justify your weight, there are always forums to find such people hailing how happy their are to be fat - but almost no one talks about the health implications. Get real please, before it's too late!

Missus Singapore out!