I enjoy it too. However, whilst I think it is great, I also have to say that I'd rather have sex without thinking about using it as a means to clear my frustrations. Let me elaborate.
Personally, I get the same, if not more energy if I am extremely horny during the day. You will find that when your thoughts stray to sex and sexual adventure, you can elicit the similar energy and get the same intensity from non make-up sex as compared to make-up sex. So for all intents and purposes, I would rather not have the prior misunderstandings - just the raw call for instinctive sex for me, thank you.
But sometimes we just can't help it.
I read about one woman who has make up sex every other week! Imagine that. Although the focus of the article was on make-up sex, it totally ignored the implications that this couple was actually having deeper problems. Obviously, their relationship is in trouble.
Yes, I know every couple experiences occasional tiffs and disagreements - more so in the initial years as they get a feel of their partner's views and preferences - but if it is a continuous affair, it paints an ominous picture of their future together.
There was even this counsellor who proposed fighting to get a good make-up sex session! Trust me, even after make-up sex, there remains residual dissent but many choose to slip it under the carpet. It will and I repeat, it will crop up again unless you get to the root of the problem and sort things out at the source.
The worse thing one can do is see make-up sex as a way to end the conflict and expect it to be case close thereafter. It's not that simple. Humans being what we are empowered with memory and as such, the disagreements never quite go away unless there is some form of closure. Problems swept under the carpet will always return to haunt us if they aren't solved.
As a once in a while thing, make-up sex is indeed a powerful relationship tool that helps to put things and priorities into perspective but remember, it does not solve the reason why the conflict emerged in the first place. Sex won't do anything for that. Talking will.
Sex can do a lot of things but unfortunately, it can never replace the important connection that is achieved through direct verbal communication. So while you go ahead and enjoy that wild and sweaty make-up sex session, do follow up by finding middle ground towards solving the problem. What I think it does best, is to pave the way for a more open, honest and less-guarded approach towards talking with each other.
Missus Singapore out!
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