SWING OPENLY

The concept of open swinging is more popular but it is here where the lines get blurred somewhat. Different varieties come to mind. Open swinging is where swingers have sex after exchanging partners and do so in full view.

It can be quite an exciting proposition but mind you, it requires lots of conversation and discussion between a couple before you dive into it. Swinging like this can change the dynamics of your relationship but if you are not mentally prepared for it, it can lead to lots of friction and problems in your relationship.

Jealousy is one thing that doesn't work well here. If you feel you are just too burdened by the thought of seeing your significant other in the throngs of making love to someone else, swinging is definitely not for you, period.

It is important that both parties are mentally prepared for the 'shock'. There was one couple I recall, who wanted to swing with us but when it came down to removing our clothes, she just freaked out and started crying. Needless to say, it totally ruined the night for everyone.

As I mentioned and will say again, this is a game for matured minds.

But if prepared for properly, it offers sexual variety, pleasure and arousal of seeing one's partner with someone else or knowing your partner is watching you with someone else. More often than not, well from my personal experience at least, men are the ones who often show signs of silent disapproval. I suppose it is also a problem when egos are not in control.

To swing openly, make sure you are prepared that the other woman or man, may have better bodies, look better and perform better in bed. If you have no issues with that, you are ready. There is really no place for comparisons during swinging. It is all about the experience and adventure. As long as everyone leaves with a positive experience, that should be enough.

I don't normally associate threesomes (MMF or FFM)or foursomes (MMMF, FFFM) as a strict form of swinging but I suppose some people do. In any case, my experiences with threesomes when I was younger had somewhat eased my entry into the world of swinging. I don't think there has ever been such a relational study but I am pretty sure it does help that you've been naked in front of more than one other person and have been involved in some form of group sex. It is not a necessity but it does help.

There is another way to ease into it which I shall cover in my next post. Look out for it and please keep the emails coming in. I'm all excited by them.

Missus Singapore out!