SHE'S GONE

It is a sad day today. My friend Amanda called me to tell me that she finally left her husband of six years. It was such a pity and I received the news with a heavy heart. If you remember some years back, I posted about her and all the problems she was having in bed.

Well, to recap, the sex was just not good but although she can joke about it now that it was the bad sex that caused her to up and leave, I knew there were deeper issues.

I've always been a proponent of the importance of sex in a marriage but it merely plays a complimentary role. There are so many other elements that are involved in a marriage. Ultimately, open communication, honesty and equality are vital - things she never did have in her relationship. It is really such a pity because there was just so much hope when they got hitched.

But looking back, these two were really too driven by their careers to be ready for marriage. If they had waited just a little longer, spoken at length about their priorities then, they would have had a better chance evading such a an outcome. Amanda agrees.

Sex may not make a marriage but it certainly can help strengthen in. Unfortunately, they were one of those couples who had to schedule for it. Once a week became once a fortnight and soon they just got too busy to even plan for it. They drifted apart and even without fighting that much, the writing was on the wall for their union.

Alas, another marriage bites the dust.

Missus Singapore out!