BUD-DA YIN, BUD-DA YANG

It's said that in order to achieve perpetual happiness in life, there has to be balance - the so-called yin-yang equilibrium. Well, I don't know much about yin-yang but I what I do know is that there is nothing quite able to balance out sex - good sex.

I read an article featuring this well-known geomancer who claimed that everything has to be balanced out - or cancelled out. My question is not so much in the concept but more about his mention of the word 'everything'.

I mean if you do good, does that mean you need to do something bad to balance things out? So what is the opposite of good sex? If you have a great romp in the sack does that mean you got to go get a lousy lay in a sty to be happy?

For me I just like to do the things that make me happy but of course making sure it doesn't hurt anyone I love. Is that too naive? They also say do everything in moderation. To some extent I do submit to that in most things except sex. I have lots of it and am happy with it. I guess I could spend a little more time cleaning my bicycle spokes to balance things up.

Nah! Sex always comes first. It makes for a really good work out, you get to sweat (which is healthy), keep your heart strong (which is good) and release stress (which is always a welcome reprieve). Why should I moderate then?

I guess what they mean is lead a balanced life doing a variety of things.

But I do. I have sex in the bedroom, bathroom, in the park, beach, airplane, boat, car...etc. See? Lots of variety.

Perhaps they mean vary your activities?

Well, I do too. I have it doggy style, take route 69 or spread scissors - stand, sit, balance - all takes concentration.

Now some of these geomancers I really don't know about. I mean my hubby's contact who is now a property agent was once a geomancer. He had a bright future taking over from big boss but then he got disillusioned when he observed the true on-goings. He seems to think that lots of advice stems from people's fears, traditions and from not knowing any better (READ: NO COMMON SENSE).

True or not, I know that my life is run the way I run it. If something is not working or going wrong, I simply make necessary changes to my life to make it right. I don't need some geomancer or sex doctor to tell me my bed is too high, the shade of brown in my room is too dark. Do you know there are even people who tell you how you are suppose to make love, the style that suits you, the bedroom set-up and other stuff?

Yin-Yang concepts make work for some areas in our lives but to say it affects everything, especially sex, is to me, a bunch of crock! I know of many many people who have spent tons of moolah on feng shui advice in their relationships (besides homes and offices) only to see it crumble to the ground.

The failings of the concepts I believe have to do with ignoring the most important element in the equation of harmony - people. If there are concepts to adjust or realign the mindsets of people - then I think we really might have something there.

Missus Singapore out!