I've written about it numerous times and even had quite a few articles on the subject published over the years but clearly, it is still a hot subject. I suppose it always has been and always will be - single vs married debate.
It's natural that one will always have a strong and somewhat biased opinion that supports her present marital status. Single women will insist that being single is the best thing there is while the married ones will come back with their usual response 'been there, done that but being married is better' argument. Even the divorced ones will claim that being divorced is the best thing ever to happen to them.
All have their merits really but it is almost impossible to come to a consensus simply because there are countless factors involved. Being in a good marriage is dependent on your partner and we all know no two partners are made equally.
I will never take the stand of any one because my life as a single was great. It was filled with fun, freedom and carelessness. But it did get a little dour at times. You could possibly say that my youthful hunger for adventure got me looking at marriage.
To be fair, getting hitched had to do with me getting tired of the dating game and wanting more permanence to pursue other goals in my life. And I don't regret it one bit because getting the relationship component out of the way has really allowed me to soar to better things. I'm more grounded, sensible and know how to pick my fights wisely.
It is often said that marriage changes a woman and in some ways it does but in all honesty, we will change in any case. It's called maturing and marriage has nothing to do with it.
That said, it doesn't mean that I didn't enjoy being single. Again, if one is not lucky and marries a man who turns out years later to be a Mr Hyde, it could be a nightmare as well. So getting married is really about taking risks and hoping for the best. How else is one suppose to know?
What I can say however is that whatever a single woman claims to enjoy, a married woman has already done so. However, the opposite cannot hold true. A single woman will have no inkling what marriage will entail and that is actually great because the element of not knowing can sometimes provide the excitement.
My stand is not to say one is better over the other but to call out to married women to put their money where their mouths are. If you get hitched and thereafter let yourself go, then which single woman in her right mind would want to head down the same road.
All married women have the responsibility to keep looking good for themselves. So if they have to work out more, that comes with the territory. In all honesty, if I were a single woman looking into the life of many a married woman, I'll be heading for the woods before you can say cellulite or stretch marks.
Maintain your looks, dress well and feed your confidence and self-esteem and it will all fall into place for you. The MILF phenomenon is not a passing fad. It is a rule-book for married women to follow. 'Over the hill' is just one destination of many and in no way one that we are forced to head to.
I'm not proposing that all women should rush to get hitched. Live your life however you wish to but don't discount that just because a friend got married and divorced soon after, or that another lost her shape, that is a true indication of what marriage is all about. The only important thing to know is that it is in your hands.
Invariably, when the subject of sex comes into the picture though, I have to admit that married women tend to know a trick or three more in bed. It comes with experience. I used to think as a single I knew it all but now with a matured, bolder, braver and more adventurous mindset, I have to say I was barely at the boundary of my sexual expression.
Missus Singapore out!
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