SEX RESOLUTION #1

Finally, the most important sex resolution for the year, especially for Singaporeans.

#1 - Master Oral Sex

The reason why this is directed to mainly Singaporeans is simply because No.1 - many don't know how to do it properly and No.2 - In their defense - oral sex was outlawed until 2007 - when Parliament blew (no pun intended) the lid off it. Being law-abiding, I guess many just stuck to regular sex.

Oral sex, I mean really great oral sex can sometimes be as good as penetration - for women I mean. The problem is many men don't seem to get it and spend too little time learning the skill. I'd rather not have a guy go down on me if I know he sucks (not in a good way) at it.

If they do it right, i.e. try to avoid making it monotonous or uncomfortable for the woman, then they are in for a treat. The trouble is they don't seem to understand the concept of what I call the 'build up'. For that, they need to know when to hasten and when to draw their wagging tongues to a crawl. It's the 'tongue tease' technique.

Very often men just go down for the sake of it and are too impatient to get their tools where they want it to be.

On the flip side, many women too are guilty of not making a big enough effort to blow their men to the clouds. It's not just the dickhead they should be working on but the whole tool and its supporting structures - the rim of the head, shaft, root and even his jewels. It should often be accompanied by some hand action - stroking, squeezing and massaging.

Every guy is different and while I'm still a long way to being considered a blow mistress - I do know that if you don't experiment, you will never know what pleases your man. It takes lots of practice . Spend more time down there if you want to open up another potential for mutual and sexual satisfaction.

There is no shame in wanting to learn how to do anything right, oral sex included. The only crime is if you brush it off as a foreplay ritual. It's more than that. It's an art and an important component of good sex. Sex is not one action but a whole experience and the richer it is with variety, the more you enjoy and want it. It works both ways and rewards both parties.

Missus Singapore out!

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SEX RESOLUTION #2

#2 - Get out of the bedroom!

What I've found most liberating and enjoyable about sex is when there is spontaneity and the element of adventure. It spurs you on to push more boundaries. With the kids out to college for most of the day, it has given me more impetus to explore other areas of my home as sex sites. Thus, is the basis for another of my recommended sex resolutions for 2010.

The bedroom is often the place you have it out but when you change the environment, you find that you change a little too - the way you behave, the way you do it and ultimately, it brings out another side of you. While the bedroom is still great, outside the bedroom lies a host of unlikely props that you can use creatively in a variety of ways.

Somehow when you find yourself in a different environment, you get a little boost of boldness which leaves you wanting to be more adventurous. It's like you are in an out-of-bounds spot - just what you need to stir the Thelma and Louise in you.

I'm not proposing you head out to the nearest park and get laid on a bench - if you can find a clean one to begin with. But just think about spicing things up - if you want to make your sex life more exciting that is. You'll be surprised. It's usually the small things - the little adjustments that can make a big difference in your sex life.

It's like playing tennis with the same partner all the time in the same court. If you can't get another partner, hell at least find a different court to make things less predictable.

It's the same kind of excitement that runs through your blood vessels when you disappear from a friend's birthday party to have a quickie upstairs in a store-room with a guy you just met. It's about excitement and adventure.

Start things off with a sex sojourn outside the bedroom. Of course a hotel room is great but it's still essentially a bedroom. Besides your sex juices, you want to let your creative juices flow too - be inventive. No two chairs are built the same, foot stools provide great support for a doggy and if height requirements are met then table edges are ideal - to be taken frontal or from the rear. Have you ever had a standing doggy? You get the picture? Small adjustments as I mentioned.

Missus Singapore out!

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READERS' RESOLUTIONS

Look out for my sex resolution #2 - coming up next. In the meantime, here is a post in response to my recommended sex resolutions for 2010, I've received a host of emails and comments as a result. Here are some of the interesting ones.

1. Cathy, Singapore - Turn lesbian because I'm tired of telling men what to do and how to do it right! Women know what to do. (MS: Trust me not all lesbians know what they're doing. The best bet is to invest in some trustworthy vibrators. They never let you down.)

2. Mish, AS, W Malaysia - Screw my cheating boyfriend's best friend. (MS: Forget his best friend, screw this other woman.)

3. Eddie Cieder, Newark, NJ - Try to convince my wife that there are other ways to have sex besides me on top. (MS: Ever wonder if she might be thinking the same thing?)

4. Razor (not sure from where) - Experience a threesome for the first time. (MS: If your attempt fails, try using two hands to jerk off.)

5. Liz, Singapore - To stop fucking my colleagues. I need all my blood in my head at work. (MS: You really don't have to stop if they are idiots to begin with. Too much blood in the head will just get you all stressed up.)

6. Dell, Perth, Australia - Go skinny dipping in the Swan.(MS: You do know there are bull sharks in there, don't you?)

7. Nimal, K, India - Cheat less on my wife. (MS: How thoughtful!)

8. Frances, Canada - Stop hoping my husband gives it to me and be more pro-active in getting it. No more disappointment. (MS: Why did you even wait to tell him?)

9. Emily, Philly (not sure if its the Philippines or Philadelphia) - Tell my boyfriend that his dick is way too small to satisfy me. (MS: What ever happened to 'take you as you are'? It's more like take you if you are hung.)

10. Wankguy (not sure from where) - Get my girlfriend to swallow. First I have to convince her that no one gets knocked up if she swallows. (MS: Where is she from? Mypos?)

Missus Singapore out!

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DARRELL’S DUNGEON (Chelsea)

New sex party, so I haven't been yet. Just started tonight. Anyone been? Share info in comments....

DARRELL’S DUNGEON (Chelsea). Leather, Military or Less. All Male, All Colors, Anything Goes…First Thursdays, starting January 7, 2010 (8PM-3AM). Held at PADDLES (w26). For more information, check out: http://www.darrellsdungeon.mobi/. For invitation, send stats and pics to darrell@darrellsdungeon.com

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MILK CHOCOLATE PARTY (Gramercy)

This is from a guest blogger. Not my opinions, but some good info...

MILK CHOCOLATE PARTY
Held in a Penthouse duplex in Gramercy, this party is a mixed race party that is predominately black and Latino. The door is no discriminatory in regards to age, shape or size therefore there is mix of people that may or may not be to my liking. While I did have fun playing with one guy, I did not find the crowd to be to my liking, most of the crowd older and not in the best of shape. Additionally the party did not seem to promote safe sex. Milk Chocolate can be contacted at milkchocolatenyc@yahoo.com

MEATPACKERS
Held in a great space in Park Slope, this party is the first Saturday of the month. This party draws a mix of people with mix of ages and shapes. This party does have a nice mix of hot and fun guys who play safe and respect you and your limits. Aside from sex the party is quite social so it proves to be a fun place to meet people and have sex. It was in this environment that my Boyfriend and I had our first threesome and enjoyed ourselves so much that we didn’t leave until after 4am (we arrived at 12:30). Safe sex only allowed and a DJ plays the whole night!
To contact, Must call: 212-677-3599

I greatly enjoy sex parties and believe that you make the most of each one you attend. For me it is a good party if I find one person I enjoy and have some fun with. If I can have fun with more guys, even better. I believe we create our own fun and the best parties are those that promote safe sex, bring an attractive crowd and create a fun, welcoming, environment.

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If anyone else wants me to post their opinions on group sex parties, please send me your posts to evanmccarthy9999@yahoo.com. Thanks guys -- keep reading!

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SEX RESOLUTION #3

#3 - Get Naked

It's quite disturbing to learn about how so many women are just not comfortable looking at themselves in the mirror - naked I mean. You may not have the perfect body (none of us do) but if you don't get to see what it is you like and what you don't, you'll never get started to improving it.

All the clothes in the world are never going to hide the fact that you just don't feel sexy about yourself. It shows and people know. But forget others, it's really about you.

On the same note, if you feel uncomfortable touching your own body, how do you expect to feel good with another person feeling it. Nudity is so liberating, even if you decide to do it in the confines of your own home. Try it, you'll be surprised with what you'll gain from it. Just make sure no one's home and draw the curtains for Pete's sake, less you want your naked ass popping up all over the Internet.

I try to do my cooking at least once a week in the nude. After a relaxing shower, I wrap my hair and go about my chores without a care in the world. Of course you will want to double check that no one is home. Also, doing it when there is a horny male around is hardly productive.

So when you finally feel comfortable with your naked body, it will work wonders with how you want it touched. Get to know your body better than anyone else, the ins and out of it. It's also a good way to check if all is well with your body.

The past year, I find myself naked more often and it's really enhanced how I feel about myself. When I don't like the way something looks, I do something about it - exercise or get a cream or anything. Let's face it, there is always something we like and don't like about our bodies. The trick is learning to flaunt the good parts and work out to eliminate the bad. Even if you can't get rid of it immediately, you are still conscious about it and dress up with that in mind.

You should never grow tired of looking after your body, that is of course you intend to give up sex altogether.

Missus Singapore out!

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ROOM OF MANY THRILLS

I wrote about Trish's new toy recently and this is a follow up to that post. I had to go back to her place two days later after realising that I had inadvertently left a file at her place. So I'm there right and I asked her how's she getting along with her new toy. She tells me it is doing just fine and fits nicely into her wardrobe.

I was like okay but she knew what I was thinking. Like any typical woman, I was intrigued by the size of her wardrobe. Which woman wouldn't feel excited about a walk-in wardrobe? After all it's not exactly common in Singapore with the small apartments we live in.

Alas, I was standing at the doorway of one but I was also staring like an idiot - jaw dropped - as I panned across shelves of sex toys! I thought I had a big collection but hell she had a room of them, mostly recognisable to me but a breathtaking spread nonetheless.

I felt inadequate really - looking through her range of dildos, beads, whips, restraints, several contraptions, etc. I walked over to one, the biggest contraption in the room. It looked distinctively familiar. I was curious.

Her reply, "Oh that's just my rowing machine."

My idiocity was confirmed. I mean with all her sex toys in there, how was I suppose to know that she also made space for her exercise equipment!

Knowing that I do occasionally promote sex toys during my tupperware-type parties, she wanted my opinion on what else she could add to her collection. Yeah right, like she didn't already have all possible types of sex toys on the planet. I've seen sex shops with a smaller variety than what she had in her walk-in wardrobe. Darn, I must spend more time with this woman!

A nagging question I harboured as I left was how many toys are really adequate for a woman. What are the necessities? What can we do without?

So I've decided to do some research on the vital sex toys every woman should have. I think portability is a favourite with most women but let's just see what I come up with.

In the mean time, enjoy this television advertisement - related to walk-in wardrobes.



Missus Singapore out!

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