ANTI-BOOB GRABBER

I remember when I was modeling back in the day in Jakarta, Indonesia. If I recall correctly, it was the Sari Pacific. We were hired by an apparel company that was doing a mass promotion in Southeast Asia for their new range of products.

So there were five of us models, two from Singapore, one from Malaysia and another two from Indonesia. On the first day, there was this guy, pretty normal looking Asian fella. He was nice and had a pleasant smile. But on the second day, he came up to one of us, the Malaysia girl I think, and we all thought he just wanted to say hi and do the usual, pass his call card or ask us to join him for a party or something along those lines. Instead, he grabbed her tits and walked briskly away.

No one did anything because we were totally shocked. It was in the lobby and there were loads of people around. I remember it well because it was the Christmas season and there was a gigantic Xmas tree up.

It was a three day gig and on the third day, the idiot of a man had the cheek to show up again. We had three runs to do throughout the night. So when we all noticed he was around, we decided to report him to the security personnel on duty but that damn fool told us he was an important guess and VIP of the hotel.

So we decided to take things into our own hands. We got Ina, one of the Indonesian girls who had the biggest bosom amongst all of us. Actually, it was she who volunteered. True enough, the same guy came up to us in the same lobby. But this time with Ina leading the pack, he approached her first and bang on schedule, he grabbed at her tits.

Just when he thought he had stuck the jackpot, he let out an agonising scream. Gosh, he sounded like a chicken with a bad throat. What Ina had done was to fix on several safety pins from the inside of her bra (safety pins are god-sent to models by the way)and left them open. It was kinda risky but she made sure they were pointing outwards.

You should have seen him, bleeding and screaming his way out of the lobby! But if I may, I hope bra manufacturers would consider making anti-boob grabbing bras like the one in the picture (but with nails instead). It might just teach them grabbers a lesson. Judging by friends and the number of women who wrote in with similar experiences, I think its really a timely accessory.

Missus Singapore out!

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WHERE FALLS THE BLAME?

Every New Year's Eve there is a hot countdown party at one of the beaches in Singapore's island resort of Sentosa. Usually it's the chance for the younger local crowd to unwind and busloads of foreigners to join in the festivities. It's all wild fun.

I was at two of these parties some years back and had to admit that it was kinda draining for me. (Is age catching up?) Anyway, at the most recent one to welcome 2010, there was some measure of controversy when a tape leaked out showing a woman enjoying herself dancing on an erected platform at one stage and minutes later, being groped by a group of men as she tried to get away.

Typical of Singaporeans, no one offered to help her.

When word (as well as a video) got out, many readers to a local forum wrote in to say she deserved it since she was showing her curves quite openly and wearing such skimpy clothes.

Sometime later, it was suggested that she was in fact not a she. Many identified her from a group of transvestites from Thailand. Others claimed she was a local. But what really took the cake was when the general consensus seemed to indicate that being a transvestite made it acceptable.

One woman in a local forum was vehemently condemning the act initially. But when she found out 'she' was actually a 'he', she did a flash U-turn and said 'he' deserved it.

So while the men cheered and insisted this 'he' deserved to be groped and was asking for it, many women are equally to blame for their views towards transvestites.

Who gives anyone the right to be treated in the manner she was? The guys were squeezing her tits, slipping their hands into her bikini bottom and it was clear from the video that she was trying to evade them but to no avail.

If we are to be a sophisticated, inclusive, understanding and tolerant society, this is certainly no way to go about it.

Woman or not, just because someone moves to arouse, or dresses to tease - it is not an open invitation to make a move on her or him. The guys are a disgrace and the women who condemn the person are equally culpable. Yes they may be different. They may feel and see things differently but isn't that what a diverse society is suppose to be? Embracing every aspect of diversity.

In terms of people on the streets, Singapore is really very much like New York, so many different colours and races spread all over the place. But in terms of accepting people - no matter what their sexuality, I have to admit that Singapore falls short - badly so.

I've many reasons to be proud for being Singaporean but this is not one of them.

Missus Singapore out!

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