MOOD BOOSTERS

Here is a sex mood booster tip sent in by Samantha Grogan, a nutritionist from Smittown (didn't mention the country). She talks about alcohol's affect's on her body.

"I love having a drink every now and then but when I have a little too much, I just don't feel in the mood for sex. It's more of a warm and sleepy feeling I get. So if I know my hubby is up for some action that night, I will space myself out.

"Let's say we plan to get down to things around 10 at night, around dinner time (at 7pm), I'd have a glass of wine (max two) to get my body warmed up. After dinner, I'd have another glass and then followed by a luke warm shower. By the time I am out of the shower, my body feels really up for it.

"This has worked for me and I've asked several women I know to try it out and they too have experienced similar effects. The thing is to regulate your alcohol intake and allow it time to settle throughout your body, especially around the erogenous zones. If you take it too much at one go, your body may not be able to cope and then your whole body will feel that way which diminishes the effect on your erogenous zones.

"The trick is to know how your body responds to wine or alcohol and pace it out. It takes some practice and discipline but it will really raise your moods for sure!"

MS: Yes, this might work but as you mentioned, discipline is the key here because for me, one glass is seldom enough. I'd always say another won't hurt. Let me try it and get back to you. I love sex experiments.

Missus Singapore out!

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Adeline Tan who sent in the Marriage Moan joke yesterday, also sent in how she gets herself into the mood for sex.

"The moment I get back from work, I have a shower and slip on something really sexy like a lacy G-string and bra combo. On top, I still have on my regular clothes as I still need to take care of my motherly duties. But feeling the silky or lacy texture against my skin gets me thinking about sex. It also helps to get me out of the work mode for the day.

I just feel that with the fast-paced day at work, dressing up or down can help me to revisit with my sexual identity. If my kids are at my parents place, I will even not wear anything under which makes me feel so sexy. It's times like this that help me unwind and get me into the mood."

MS: I fully agree with you although I must say that it's harder to pull it off when the kids are older. But when I am out, I do sometimes like to go bare under. It makes you feel so - for a lack of a better word - dirty and cheap......and desirable. It's good to feel that way at times especially in a world when we try to play up our values and status on a daily basis.

Missus Singapore out!

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Here is a mood booster sent in by Janelle from Perth, Australia. She is a 35-year old mother of two, a girl, 4 and a boy, 7. She works for transport company and has been doing so for the past 9 years. Her husband is a sales manager.

"Why do we feel so good after a massage? It loosens our muscles and sends blood gushing to the area. It's the same way for me. Once a week or so, I visit my masseuse, a Vietnamese lady who does traditional massage for women. She actually started giving me post-partum massages after both my children were born.

So she subsequently introduced me to erotic massage therapy. She would focus her strokes on certain areas like between my thighs, just about and around my privates and my breasts. And each time after a 45-minute session, I'm just rearing to go and can't wait for my husband to come home. Trust me, it lasts for a few days at least.

I suppose any massage will help to ease and relax the muscles to keep your body more likely to embrace the idea of sex but I must tell you that erotic massages take it to a different level altogether. My hubby actually has noticed my increase urges and when I told him about it, he was amused but of course did not complain.

I think if you are feeling down and low on energy, your body will certainly thank you for giving it such a treat. I have never looked back since."

MS: Janelle, yeah I've tried it in Bali and Thailand and I totally agree with you about the erotic form of massage. In fact, the blood gush is quite unlike anything I've ever experienced. Even hot oils lose out to that. You got me thinking about revisiting with that again. Thanks so much.

Missus Singapore out!

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Siew Hwa, 44, from Singapore writes in with her suggestion on how she gets into the mood for sex.

"I'm not sure if this only works for me but I realised that each time my husband and I go out to a quiet place for a walk or just to sit down like at the beach, we tend to get really in to the mood for sex. It has to be quiet, just us two and our moods to get intimate rise. We have three kids and my mother-in-law lives with us so it tends to be rare for us to sit down on the couch and enjoy a quiet time at home.

It is not that we don't have sex at other times but each time we come back from such an outing, we are really into each other. The best sex we have had has definitely come after we had gone out on a quiet 'date' like that. In fact, even before we reach home, our hands are all over each other."

MS: I fully agree. With the hectic lifestyles many of us live, quiet time together is really a luxury. It is as if all our senses return to the raw and we revisit with our raw instincts too. Keep up those quiet moments. All I can say is it would be best if the two of you avoid visiting the library together.

Missus Singapore out!

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Here is how Leisha P, a Briton who is living and working in Hong Kong keeps her moods up. The 44-year old single mother of two is a sociologist working in a local university there. I'm impressed with that there are actually academics who follow me.

"I read how someone actually wrote in previously about how she would stay away from people that irks her. I would like to reiterate that that can really make a difference to one's moods. I find men who think they know it all as my greatest source of irritation. I should know as I was married to one such man. If I am planning to meet a male friend for an intimate night, I would try my best to keep away from such men as much as I can on a personal level.

If I come into contact with them, they will tend to irritate the hell out of me and kill my mood. The last I would want to do is spend a night with the species, even if he is not the sort. So I find cleansing myself of opinionated men for the day has a fantastic affect on my libido. Some men, most men really, think they understand women and our nuances. Others even think they understand how our hormones work! So rather than to confront and try to explain things to them, I'd rather slip away and spend my precious time doing something else. Sadly, a woman still depends on a man for sex, at least for the foreseeable future."

MS:  Well Leisha, there is really nothing we can do about people with opinions so what you are doing does make a hell of a lot of sense. As for me, I won't let them bother me. I'm kind of immune to that sort of thing. I laugh it off most of the time rather than waste my energy and effort on someone who just refuses to be educated. Some try to be really intelligent but you can tell from what they are saying that they are just coughing out their egos the way many men do. Thanks for your comments and the research papers you sent. Interesting reads!

Missus Singapore out!

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Here is a mood boosting tip from Susmawanti from Indonesia. She is an extraordinary woman of 44, has two teenage daughters and is a fashion buyer in Jakarta. She loves to read up on tantric sex and is a amateur numerologist in her free time. She is married for the second time now.

"I trained as a ballerina when I was younger and continue to dance and even attend pilates classes. I find that after each stretching session, my thighs, tummy and legs get really warm. But because it sends a lot of blood to the area, I get really easily aroused. So some years back, I decided to try doing a round of stretching at night and found that I was horny quite easily. But better still, I was also more enthusiastic in bed. It really clears you mind and sets you up for an enjoyable time in bed."

MS: Ever tried collapsing the pre-sex workout and sex itself into one deed? Gosh, I am always so envious of women who are so flexible. I try to be but almost always, end up out of action for a few days from a strained neck, back or pulled muscle somewhere.

Missus Singapore out! 

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