Set the right expectations - which is to not have any expectations. Try not to set off thinking that is the first thing you will have to do. Your mindset and comfort levels are important. If you feel really aroused, that is a great start. Otherwise, postpone it. If you associate it with a time when you were aroused, your mind will tend to associate it with a feel-good moment and you will likely want to revisit with it again.
For the anal virgins amongst you, I've dug up one of my anal trainers from days gone by. It's a rubber anal plug that is totally flexible and soft. If you want one, get the really soft and bendable ones. The hard ones (they're uncompromising) are for later when you are more comfortable with the idea of some foreign object up your rear end.
Now the other important thing is you need to control the guy. Having him enter you from behind - either doggy or with you lying on your belly - is not recommended because you won't be able to hold him back if he suddenly decides that's where he wants his whole dick to be in. Women on top, either way, is preferable, with you controlling how deep or how quickly you want him to slide into you.
Lastly, you must use good judgment on how your body is feeling in the vicinity. Any slight discomfort in the abdomen or bladder region is a sign that perhaps you want to postpone it altogether.
Use a condom, not just for the obvious reason. But with lube, the edges of a man's tool is soften and the lube works to make the rubber easier to slide in. So condoms are great for anal sex.
Once you get the hang of it, you might think of going into other aspects of anal sex, but let me warn you. Once you experience an orgasm during the act, it's quite unlike anything you will ever experience. It's significantly more intense, bigger and leaves you addicted to it. Don't say I didn't warn you.
Hope my two cents worth helped.
Missus Singapore out!
