THROUGH THE DICKSCOPE

Thanks Harry from Singapore for this cartoon in response to my post yesterday of the dick poll results. I have to say besides giving me a big chuckle, it also had me thinking about the fat guys I had been with before.

I know its commonplace to hear that if a guy wants to appear bigger, he should lose weight as one of the first steps. In most ways, I agree but I've met some overweight men, with enourmous and muscular dicks too. It sounds like an oxymoron really but I certainly have see it with my own eyes.

This guys I met many years ago was then a young man - lean and mean. But seven or eight years later, after he got married, he showed up looking three times the size as he was before. But thankfully, he still had his manhood intact to my delight.

Having said that, it is true with most men, the more weight you lose from your belly, the bigger it appears. Size is another thing but it's all about proportions and visual senses isn't it. However, if I really met a man who had to use a periscope to find out what his tool is up to, I'd rather have a root-canal done, thank you very much!

Missus Singapore out!

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HUNG OR NOT? (POLL 28)

Here are the poll results that were carried out on Missus Singapore sometime back about dick lengths. I apologise for taking an extended time to report on it but I had to wait for the results of another similar poll that I had put up in a magazine.

So finally, after collating them all, here are the results.

A total of 231 votes were received. It does however swing towards a representation of the Asian male.

How long are you or your partner?
3-5 inches - 105 (45%)
5-7 inches - 78 (34%)
7-9 inches - 39 (17%)
Over 9 inches - 9 (4%)

A similar poll done in 2007 closely mirrored this trend.

As for what the women want, another poll was carried out simultaneously. It asked the them what was their ideal length. Here were the replies of some 156 women.

3-5 inches - 6 (4%)
5-7 inches - 33 (21%)
7-9 inches - 24 (15.4%)
Over 9 inches - 24 (15.4%)
Size doesn't matter - 69 (44.2%)

So apparently size doesn't matter for the majority of you. I can almost see the men smiling at the new-found prospects. In truth, since most women are highly sensitive in the outer third region of their privates, you really don't need a 12-incher to gain satisfaction but you have to admit, the novelty of it all is just too hard to ignore, once in a while at least.

Missus Singapore out!

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100,000 VISITORS!

I actually didn't even realise it until a reader wrote it to ask how I go about promoting my blog since I was almost at 100,000 visitors. The truth it I do very little to actively promote it since I just started out as a way of putting down my thoughts.

It just happened over the course of the past four years or so. The number of visits is over 250,000 but the 100,000 figure is just the unique ones who have visited the site as of 4 January 2011.

I guess it is only fitting that I come out and thank all of you who have been following me. Your comments and the materials I keep receiving is amazing as it is a motivation for me. Which is why personally, for the lat year, it has been a really joy (and challenge) keeping up to my post-a-day routine. But I did it!

Please keep your comments and cartoons, jokes, stories, confessions, etc coming. I hope to meet more of you in person over the coming 12 months.

Missus Singapore out!

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END OF AN ERA

Many of you probably know that I used to actively organise hen and stag parties a while back. I toned it down considerably in 2010. Other than the ac-hoc thingy, I focused more on my other endeavours. During the Christmas season however, I was persuaded by a few people to organise a few.

It was okay I guess but my feeling that I was jaded proved right by the second of three parties. All were hen parties by the way. There were a few male strippers in the second one. I got to know them and found out they were from Indonesia. Nice chaps with nice bodies and equally delicious buldges.

Even so, I did not really find myself as excited about the whole deal as I used to be before. It's hard to explain. When your work falls around the sensual aspects of human nature, it might work to dissolve whatever excitement and wonder you initially feel. You really have to be careful not to wear yourself out.

Don't get me wrong, I still love sex and enjoy it thoroughlly. It's what keeps me alive but I suppose it's very much like watching porn. Too much and it just does not seem as exciting anymore. Perhaps a better example is when you wake up in the morning one day and find that you have to dragy yourself to work. For me when that happens, it's really time to look for greener grass.

What was intriguing though, was that one of the guys had really unreal nuts. At first it looked like he had a cup on or something but on closer examination (really close: go figure!) it was clear they were freakishly low-hung and big! However, although he was pretty well hung, by comparison, his tool didn't look big at all.

Lesson: Don't judge a dick by the nuts! I would personally have preferred if they were proportional. It's just so sexy when a guy is built proportionally. It's the same with guys wanting a well proportioned woman.

So the bottom line is that I am totally moving away from this. Seven years of watching men and women bang strangers like crazy before they get hitched has taken its effect on me. I thought I would eventually go back to it but this Christmas, I turned the final page on that chapter of my life. New challenges beckon for Missus Singapore in 2011. Any ideas?

Missus Singapore out!

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MS ADVISORY

It's a new year and before we get things started for 2011, I'd just like to take a little time out to highlight the importance of being safe while you're having sex.

In the course of doing some research for a book, I had the opportunity to speak with two people, a man and a woman who are both HIV+. The former contracted it through needle-sharing while the woman had it with a man she had sex with. He was only the second man she had ever had sex with. She was married for six years but got a divorce in 2006.

This other man was an expatriate who frequented Bangkok and Hanoi during that time. He was dignosed with HIV in 2008 and six months later, she too suffered the same fate.

Just remember that a moment's fun could end you in a lifetime of misery. There is really no reason why fun cannot still be had but there is such a thing as smart fun.

Missus Singapore out!

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GROUP Sex Parties -- Monday, January 3 to Sunday, January 9

Sex Parties -- Monday, January 3 to Sunday, January 9...

***HOT PICKS OF THE WEEK: PRIVATE PARTY (Wed), THE OLYMPUS PARTY (FRI), COLLEGE WATER SPORTS KEGGER PARTY (Sat); and THE HOT JOCK PARTY (Sun)



Monday...
JACKS OF COLOR (Chelsea) @ Paddles, Doors 7:00 - Midnight, goes 'til 2 am; A New York City Club For Men of Color "And Their Friends." Has HUGE parties 70-120 guys attend, all ages. An older mixed crowd/for average guys. Email here JacksOfColor@Gmail.com or check out www.jacksofcolor.com

MUSCLE GROUP ( West Harlem/w140s) Starts at 9/9:30pm (also has lunch-time parties). In small studio apartment. This small sex party really runs the gamut from hot guys to very average dudes. Usually have 4-10 guys -- some 20s- mostly 30s- some 40YOs. Have parties at random, but often on Mondays, 9pm-11pm. The best thing about this party is that it's one of the true orgies. At most parties guys are having sex one-one-one or threesomes--at MUSCLE GROUP there is more often than not a pile of guys fucking/sucking off each other. Also cool, because it's FREE. Two problems: You never know who will be there -- sometimes no hot guys, sometimes no one but you and the host; also the host is a big (out-of-shape) guy, that is a turn off to lots of guys. He's a cool dude, but with an attitude that can be too much for some. And don't believe the pictures he sends -- although those guys maye have gone to a party there, they will most likely not be at the party you attend. A mixed crowd/for hot to average guys.
*Send pics & Stats to: MUSCLFINALE@aol.com



Tuesday…
EXECUTIVE LUNCH (Gramercy). Lunch-time (12-4pm) party expecting a huge turnout, quickly becoming the place for business men and jocks to hook up weekday afternoons. Held twice a week: Tuesdays and Thursdays.
*For Invite: MUST Send pic (shirtless from the waist up is fine) & Stats to: apollothegreek@earthlink.net.

THE CLUB HOUSE ORGIES (West Willage). TONIGHT is the FUSION party (Fusin is a Safe sex and bb party: Baseball style wristbands are available if you want to let guys know if you prefer safe or bareback. Totally optional. Limits the need for negotions.) Held in a private apartment. He has an open door policy party, which means that anyone can get in, so it’s an older crowd of average or out of shape guys. 8pm-1am. The host is a cool guy who actually participates (and he runs a blog about group sex). For an older mixed crowd/for average guys. Check out his blog at http://theorgyguy.blogspot.com or to get in email stats and pics to Scott at theclubhouseparties@gmail.com.

NEW YORK JACK (Times Square) Safe sex party for guys who like to JO. They are not selective about who gets in, so the guys run the gamut: all type of bodies, races, and ages. Held at "Paddles."
http://www.nyjacks.com



Wednesday…
THE FORMER DOWNTOWN MEN'S PARTY (Gramercy). LUNCH-TIME Party (noon-3pm). Haven’t been to the new location – but the former location had a great vibe with some average to hot guys. The host is very cool guy, who tries to be selective. He also hosted lunch-time parties in past, hopefully will bring this back too. For a mixed crowd/for average to hot guys.
EMAIL PICS AND STATS: DowntownMensParty@gmail.com

PRIVATE PARTY (Garment District) 8pm-midnight. Great social sex party in large private loft apt held once a month, 8pm-12am.. Great mix of twinks to muscle dudes to toned average guys, and a good mix of 20-30-40YOs (no one over 45, or under 21) -- 70-90 guys attend (last few parties had 85, 97 & 100+). This is a great party to try if you've never been to a party before -- very social, very safe, and a clean atmosphere, no attitude. The best part is that there is tons of HOT sex at this party – not just standing around. The host provides drinks, condoms and lube; and showers, towels. Just a warning: DON'T LET THE INITIAL PROCESS STOP YOU! A number of guys get pissed off by having to interview. It's easy: one quick phone call (where the host explains the party) and then an interview just before the party begins). Guys, I know it sounds annoying – and can be -- but don't let it bother you - it's all cool and makes for a great crowd. There's a reason this party gets hot new guys each month, and where everyone actually has hot sex.).
*Send pics, Stats to: PRIVATE.PARTY@msn.com.

HARD DRIVE! WITH LE RAUNCH (Chelsea) New party from the guy who brought you GRAB ASS, but HARD DRIVE! will have a much stricted door policy! Held at Paddles every Wednesday, Doors 8pm-1am, open until 3am. ages 25 to 55YO: height/weight proportionate (all body types, extremely friendly). The host had made a huge effort to get hotter guys -- check it out. Just wanted to report that that last week's Hard Drive debut of Le Raunch had 120+ men, and according the host: "the hottest men I have ever seen. Every one left the club totally satisfied."
Email here hunteur1@gmail.com or check out www.CumMonkey.com or www.HardDriveMen.com

REAL MEN ONLY (RMO) PARTY (Fresh Meadows) Slurpee Coach has the parties weekly on Wed eve 7-11pm. For older/average guys. To get in, email pics/stats here: slurpeecoach@hotmail.com.

Thursday…
EXECUTIVE LUNCH (Gramercy). Lunch-time (12-4pm) party expecting a huge turnout, quickly becoming the place for business men and jocks to hook up weekday afternoons. Held twice a week: Tuesdays and Thursdays.
*For Invite: MUST Send pic (shirtless from the waist up is fine) & Stats to: apollothegreek@earthlink.net.

THE FORMER DOWNTOWN MEN'S PARTY (Gramercy). 7pm-10pm. Haven’t been to the new location – but the former location had a great vibe with some average to hot guys. The host is very cool guy, who tries to be selective. He also hosted lunch-time parties in past, hopefully will bring this back too. For a mixed crowd/for average to hot guys.
EMAIL PICS AND STATS: DowntownMensParty@gmail.com

THE CLUB HOUSE ORGIES (West Willage). TONIGHT is ERUPTION party. Eruption (not exclusively safe), Held in a private apartment. He has an open door policy party, which means that anyone can get in, so it’s an older crowd of average or out of shape guys. 8pm-1am. The host is a cool guy who actually participates (and he runs a blog about group sex). For an older mixed crowd/for average guys. Check out his blog at http://theorgyguy.blogspot.com or to get in email stats and pics to Scott at theclubhouseparties@gmail.com.

BRUTHAS AND FRIENDS PARTY (Corona) For African-American guys and their admirers. This party is held in a private apartment; 6PM-MIDNIGHT. Refreshments and snacks provided
For Invite: Men4MenPlay@yahoo.com



Friday…
THE OLYMPUS PARTY (Gramercy). This friday night 6 different promoters have combined their parties into one major event: the muscled jocks of DIESEL, the nubian heat of JUNGLE FEVER, the tattooed bad boys of INK, the sexually-curious twinks of DETENTION, the rugged masculine men of BLUYE COLLAR, and the adult film entertainers of Marco Cruise's PORN STARS.
*For Invite: MUST Send pic (shirtless from the waist up is fine) & Stats to: apollothegreek@earthlink.net.

THUGS 4 THUGS SEX PARTY (Brooklyn) 12:00-7:00am. Hot party for Black and Latino guys, and guys who love big black cocks. Safe sex only for in shape guys—huge space (2 huge floors), fresh towels and condoms/lube provided, (12midnight-7am). It’s a safe and clean place. lots of space. a bit dark but eyes get used to it.
http://thugs4thugsex.com or email bkthugparty@earthlink.net

BROOKLYN HOODS (Crown Heights, Brooklyn). Predominately African-American crowd, but anyone welcome. Fridays: 9:00pm - 6am (Safe Sex party). This party is a Big Men's Private Party. This party is for Big Men and for those who are looking to meet Big Men. This is an all race party. No age limit above 18 years of age or older. All men are invited.
To get in email stats and pics to BROOKLYNHOODS@GMAIL.COM.

BRUTHAS AND FRIENDS PARTY (Corona) For African-American guys and their admirers. This party is held in a private apartment; 8PM to 3AM. Refreshments and snacks provided
For Invite: Men4MenPlay@yahoo.com

GALLERY OF MEN (Times Square) 9pm-3am, 20s - 40s mostly holdovers from GCN/Studio days. Lots of BB, smoking area within the facility. A party for older out of shape guys.
Email for invite: thegallerynyc@yahoo.com

Saturday…
COLLEGE WATER SPORTS KEGGER PARTY and GOLDEN BOYS USA (Brooklyn) Held in the basement space in a brownstone. Only accept guys who are in-shape, 18-30 years old. Have regular rooms and wet rooms (even though there is a water sports theme, you don't have to be into W/S to have fun at this party). Average 75-120 guys attend, all 20 YOs. For a younger/hot crowd.
Email here ChrisHawkeGBU@aol.com or check out www.GoldenBoysUSA.com

NUBIAN DUKES PARTY (Midtown). This party is for HOT muscular, athletic, slim, African American and Latino dudes ONLY. They also have a strict door policy. Mandatory clothes check: boxers, no shirts or tee's. Condoms, lube, liquid provided. Hip hop music with a Dj. Very HOT. Incredible bodies, no attitude and a lot of action. Parties are usually twice a month, usually on Fridays, but can be Saturdays or Sunday nights too 12am-6am. Gets 70-90 dudes each party. Send pics and stats to nubiandukesnyc@yahoo.com

LOAD NYC (East Village). Underwear party held at Blue Door Video Basement for in-shape guys. 90 guys, porn. ALSO has Park Slope party. For hot/younger crowd. To get in email pics/stats to Loadnyc@aol.com.

MILK CHOCOLATE PARY (Gramercy). HOT BODY MEN'S PARTY, 9:30pm - 2am. A new spin-off party “just for the hot men, with sexy-cool attitudes.” NOTE: They have a private party for 40 hot men on the Hung List from 8:30pm-9:30pm this Saturday. Doors open 9:30pm - 2am for the rest of the email list to join the party
Send stats and pics to milkchocolatenyc@gmail.com.

THUGS 4 THUGS SEX PARTY (Brooklyn) 9:00pm-3:00am. Hot party for Black and Latino guys, and guys who love big black cocks. Safe sex only for in shape guys—huge space (2 huge floors), fresh towels and condoms/lube provided, (12midnight-7am). It’s a safe and clean place. lots of space. a bit dark but eyes get used to it.
http://thugs4thugsex.com or email bkthugparty@earthlink.net

THE OMEGA PARTY (Times Square). Held in a great space near Times Square. They get 70 to 120 guys per party (Sunday being the biggest night). The parties are laid back, mix/general crowd. The age mix ranges from 20 to 60YO, all races (60% white, 40% mixed), muscle, thin, cute, bear etc. They host 2 to 3 parties per week. Refreshments , snacks, condoms and lube provided. Time: 9PM TO 4 AM. The new location in the W40s is great: fully equipped with shower, porn rom, sauna (OFTEN not working) and with air conditioner. An older mixed crowd/for average guys.
Anybody wanting to go to the party should email roccosly@aol.com or www.TheOmegaRoom.com.

WHITE PONY PARTY (Forest Hills) The host (White Pony) is a great guy, and def a nice no attitude party in pvt 1st fl apt. He has it on Saturday night from 8pm till 2am.
Mostly older guys. Email for invite: whitepony3332@yahoo.com

ED & STEVE DICKPLAY PARTY (Inwood/Upper Manhattan) 8pm-2am, 2011 Inaugural Ball. Held in a private apartment by an interracial gay couple -- this party meets about twice a month is a laid-back mixed crowd of mostly older in-shape guys. It's promoted as an interracial erotic play party. Most guys are naked, but not required. Starts at 5pm and runs until 12am (officially there is no door closing time). The hosts think of the group as being a hand selected group of guys who are into interracial sex and don't have attitudes. It's a mix of guys, white, black, Latin, occasionally Asian, not too young, not too old. Average age is 35 - 45. They get about 40+ guys. The hosts says They provide condoms and lube; Smoking is allowed in designated areas; it's a BYOB party. The atmosphere is distinctly no attitude.
Email: EdAndSteve@verizon.net; or check out http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EdAndSteve.

LONG ISLAND BI-DO PARTY (Long Island). “New Year, Next Party.” LI-BI-do is a group of Long Island , NY and nearby bisexual, bi-curious and bi-friendly couples, women, trans , and men. Besides using the online features of YahooGroups, we like to get together once a month for an adult play party. The next party is in a first class Hotel Suite on LI that is easy to get to by car or LIRR. If you want information about attending this party,
For more information Go to Home Page: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LI-BI-do, or Send blank email to: LI-BI-do-Subscribe@yahoogroups.com

Sunday…
PUMPNYC (Midtown). 9pm-2am (Door closes at 1). New party from the guy who brought you NYJOCK PARTY. Very select: There will be no more than 50 guys allowed into the party and you will only have three hours to enter. PUMPNYC is about quality not quantity. Good news: HOT, HOT guys; BAD NEWS: Not great sex -- they are all too good for you and each other.
VERY HOT GUYS ONLY send stats and pics to: nyjockparty@yahoo.com.

THE HOT JOCK PARTY (Gramercy) 6-10pm. Held in a studio space or hotel suite -- has guys in mostly 20s -30s-hot 40YOs. It's above average to hot muscle guys, and twinks. Not a lot of attitude. Usually hot sex, and a fun mix of guys. Easily one of the best parties -- and one of few that you get a good mix of hot guys and hot sex. Usually about 30-50+ guys attend, twice a month, 7pm-11pm. For a racially mixed younger/hot crowd.
*Send pics & Stats to: hotjckpty@yahoo.com

THE MEN’S PARTY (W. Harlem). 7pm-1am. In big apartment in Harlem . The party is a mix from a few hot young guys to some fat old guys (they also run BEAR HUNT). The party is not strict about safe sex and lots of bb. Has sling. The host is nice, but I personally never like the vibe — too sleazy for me (which is v. sleazy). Usually has about 20-40 guys attending. An older mixed crowd/for average to out of shape guys. Email here: TheMensParty@yahoo.com or check out www.themensparty.com

THE OMEGA PARTY (Times Square). Held in a great space near Times Square. They get 70 to 120 guys per party (Sunday being the biggest night). The parties are laid back, mix/general crowd. The age mix ranges from 20 to 60YO, all races (60% white, 40% mixed), muscle, thin, cute, bear etc. They host 2 to 3 parties per week. Drinks, snacks, condoms and lube provided. Time: 6 PM TO 2 AM, DOORS 6 PM TO 1 AM , party till 2 AM; The new location in the W40s is great: fully equipped with shower, porn rom, sauna and with air conditioner. An older mixed crowd/for average guys.
Anybody wanting to go to the party should email roccosly@aol.com or www.TheOmegaRoom.com.

NEW YORK JACK (Times Square) Safe sex party for guys who like to JO. They are not selective about who gets in, so the guys run the gamut: all type of bodies, races, and ages. Held at "Chelsea Space."
http://www.nyjacks.com

THUGS 4 THUGS SEX PARTY ( Brooklyn ) Hot party for Black and Latino guys, and guys who love big black cocks. Safe sex only for in shape guys—huge space (2 huge floors), fresh towels and condoms/lube provided, (9pm-3am). It’s a safe and clean place. lots of space. a bit dark but eyes get used to it.
http://thugs4thugsex.com or email bkthugparty@earthlink.net

THE CLUB HOUSE ORGIES (West Willage). TONIGHT is SIR! party (for younger guys into older guys). Held in a private apartment. He has an open door policy party, which means that anyone can get in, so it’s an older crowd of average or out of shape guys. 8pm-1am. The host is a cool guy who actually participates (and he runs a blog about group sex). For an older mixed crowd/for average guys. Check out his blog at http://theorgyguy.blogspot.com or to get in email stats and pics to Scott at theclubhouseparties@gmail.com.

ALL the pic in this post are from the blog: http://blog.brokestraightboys.com. Check it out.

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HEALTH FIRST

One of the things that I have been increasingly aware off over the course of 2010 is how few women really take care of their health. I had over 10 articles published this year on women's health issues and whilst doing the research for them, I've come to realise the extent of this.

While many are aware of the latest foundations or lotions (and are willing to spend a bomb on them) only a handful understand women's  health issues. It's all about fun for them and suffer later. I love to have my fair does of fun too but that does not mean that I ignore what needs to be looked after. Even before I wrote anything like this, I already knew what I had to look out for. It wasn't just for me but for my family's sake as well.

I just feel that ignorance is showing how little you care for your loved ones. So, one of the things that I will also try to focus more on this year will be on fitness and health issues for women mostly. Don't worry, sex will still be my primary focus.

The path to great sex is not just a mental thing. You have to have the right functioning tools that work at optimum levels.

Missus Singapore out!

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