BE ONE OF THE LUCKY GUYS

Some guys are luckier that others when it comes to meeting girls. I was once told that a guy has to be bold and make his move at every opportune moment and make his presence known. Well, I didn't quite agree with that because most of the time, guys don't know about the thin line between being friendly and obnoxious.

I can smell an obnoxious chap a mile away and it just makes me want to slap him for some reason. I don't know what it is but I just feel like it.

I don't for a minute subscribe to the alpha male being outright bold at getting his women because it can be quite a turn off especially these days when women are putting their gray matter to use. The alpha male has an aura about him which does not have to do with being loud.

The mysterious and subtle guy seems to get more action from what I know. The mystery draws curiosity and the subtlety at reaching out is the hook. Not wanting or seeming too eager is always a plus. Unfortunately, most men don't see it that way.

I'm not saying you sit by your lonesome in a dark corner at the pub and hope some sexy babe comes up to you. Think about making friends first and not sex when any approach is made. A genuine smile (not a sleazy peer into her cleavage) goes a long way. And if you can keep sex or any sexual insinuations out of the conversation for more than 20 minutes, I'd say you will have a chance with this woman.

Yes, no doubt there are horny women out there, who just wanna get laid (take me for instance) but it does not take much for someone to come along and spoil the mood for us. A horny woman doesn't mean she is immune to getting turned off.

Ironically, by not appearing to desperate to pick up a woman, you actually boost your chances of getting one. So play it cool, let your charm and charisma (if you have any) shine and not your need to get a free lay. If you do so, chances are you will have more babes to lay than you can handle - that's the ultimate goal anyway, isn't it?

Missus Singapore out!

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CAREFUL WHO YOU PICK UP!

Thanks Wendy Sim from Singapore, for this funny cartoon. It's a reminder for guys trying to pick up a girl. These days with all the advance in plastic surgery, you never quite can tell from afar the targets you hit.

In Thailand especially, some of the ladyboys are absolutely gorgeous. I've made a few friends in Bangkok and Phuket - all pre-op and making enough money to go for the operation that would change their lives completely. Unfortunately, the ones in Singapore are not convincing enough.

Missus Singapore out!

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LADIES IN RED

Some years ago, I wrote an article for a woman's magazine about colour dressing and it's effects on men. I totally forgot about it until I heard about a recent survey on a local radio station today.

During my research, I elicited the help of three other girlfriends. We carried it out over a two-month period (6 outings in total), where we patronised the same place on different days - each of us taking turns to wear different coloured dresses. We also took great pains to be consistent with our hair, make-up and behaviour on the night just to make sure that no one gained an unfair advantage.

At any one time, the four of us took turns to wear a blue, black, green and red dress. From the onset, we knew that green and blue had a rather tame effect but there was some disagreement when it came to black and red.

So we all sat at the bar, open to approach. I based things on the number of times men came up to us. The figures do tell a story.

Hit Count
1. Red Dress - 21 hits
2. Black Dress - 16 hits
3. Blue Dress - 8 hits
4. Green Dress - 3 hits

So the red dress clearly stood out as a man-magnet. Men appeared more daring, vocal and let their egos ooze when they approached any of us who wore red for the evening. It's almost as if they were desperate to impress. One of my girlfriends had a great analogy - She said, 'It was like they wore their balls on their chins.'

What was initially surprising was the high number of hits that the black dress mustered. But on retrospect, it might have been due to my friend June who didn't wear a bra that evening. You see, she is one of those who has hard protruding nipples - which I guess gave her an unfair advantage. She mustered 8 hits on that night alone.

But on a more scientific approach, it does make some measure of sense. It's what scientists and anthropologists attribute to the 'red-sex link' - part of our biological set-up - where female primates tend to display red on certain areas of their body when they are in mating mode. This attracts the males to them.

While men, I feel, always want to give the impression that they are sophisticated beings, who are thoughtful and not responsive to surface traits of a woman, to some extent, their preferences can be considered primitive.

Interestingly, this study of mine showed that men have a preference to women in red but it also demonstrated (as with my friend June), that if there is one thing that can overpower the effects of a red dress, its showing your nips! So if you really don't have a red number but want to elicit a male audience, then let your nips show through.

Missus Singapore out!

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