TAKING A SEX VACATION

I received an interesting email from a reader the other day. She was telling me how she had spent months coming out from a devastating break-up until she decided to have a one-night stand.

She wrote, "It was instantaneous, the healing. For months I had sat on my butt crying my eyes out but then I decided to have sex on the spur of the moment with someone whom I knew for ages, but never forged any physical attraction with. We were friends and we still are friends but he had healed me because the next day, I felt that my system was re-booted and I could function once again, at work and socially. It was like a sex vacation - and a very revitalizing one!"

MS: I think she hit the nail on the head when she talked about re-booting her system. However, I don't think it will work for everyone. In fact for others, it may just make things worse by complicating your emotional state of mind.

But that is just mankind's resilience - to find ways to get out of the rut. I do however think that doing something different, getting out of your comfort zone will help. Doing things you associate with your ex will definitely not be productive. Get out, do something different and if it is a one-night stand, hey, who am I to judge.

Missus Singapore out!

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BE ONE OF THE LUCKY GUYS

Some guys are luckier that others when it comes to meeting girls. I was once told that a guy has to be bold and make his move at every opportune moment and make his presence known. Well, I didn't quite agree with that because most of the time, guys don't know about the thin line between being friendly and obnoxious.

I can smell an obnoxious chap a mile away and it just makes me want to slap him for some reason. I don't know what it is but I just feel like it.

I don't for a minute subscribe to the alpha male being outright bold at getting his women because it can be quite a turn off especially these days when women are putting their gray matter to use. The alpha male has an aura about him which does not have to do with being loud.

The mysterious and subtle guy seems to get more action from what I know. The mystery draws curiosity and the subtlety at reaching out is the hook. Not wanting or seeming too eager is always a plus. Unfortunately, most men don't see it that way.

I'm not saying you sit by your lonesome in a dark corner at the pub and hope some sexy babe comes up to you. Think about making friends first and not sex when any approach is made. A genuine smile (not a sleazy peer into her cleavage) goes a long way. And if you can keep sex or any sexual insinuations out of the conversation for more than 20 minutes, I'd say you will have a chance with this woman.

Yes, no doubt there are horny women out there, who just wanna get laid (take me for instance) but it does not take much for someone to come along and spoil the mood for us. A horny woman doesn't mean she is immune to getting turned off.

Ironically, by not appearing to desperate to pick up a woman, you actually boost your chances of getting one. So play it cool, let your charm and charisma (if you have any) shine and not your need to get a free lay. If you do so, chances are you will have more babes to lay than you can handle - that's the ultimate goal anyway, isn't it?

Missus Singapore out!

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